6 Truths About Healing After Abortion

No matter the circumstances, abortion can leave behind a trail of emotions that are rarely talked about. Grief, guilt, shame, relief, anger, numbness — these feelings don’t always make sense, and society often doesn't give us space to explore them.

This guide was created to offer you validation, clarity, and gentle truth. It’s not about whether your choice was “right” or “wrong” — it’s about honoring you, the human being behind that choice.

Here are six truths that most women are never told about healing after abortion.

🌸 Truth #1: Grief Doesn’t Mean Regret

You can grieve and still know you made the right decision.
Grief is a natural response to loss — of potential, of innocence, of what could’ve been. You are allowed to honor what you lost without questioning your worth or your choice.

🌿 Truth #2: Silence Doesn’t Equal Healing

Avoiding your feelings might get you through the day… but healing asks for acknowledgment.
Many women carry their abortion silently for years, thinking “time will take care of it.” But true peace comes when we give voice to what we’ve buried.

🌕 Truth #3: You’re Not Broken — You’re Hurting

You don’t need to be fixed. You need to be witnessed.
Feeling stuck or lost doesn't mean you’re broken. It means there's unprocessed emotion, unmet needs, and pain that deserves care — not shame.

🌹 Truth #4: You Can Be Both Relieved and in Pain

Relief and pain can coexist. They don’t cancel each other out.
Just because part of you knows it was the best decision at the time doesn’t mean another part of you didn’t hurt. This complexity is not a flaw — it’s your humanity.

🌊 Truth #5: Emotional Healing Isn’t Linear

You might feel fine one day and flooded the next. That doesn’t mean you’re going backwards.
Healing is cyclical. Emotions move in waves. Some days you’ll feel empowered, and other days you’ll feel tender. Both are part of the process.

🕊️ Truth #6: You Deserve to Heal

Yes, you. Even if no one else knows. Even if you’re still figuring it out.
You don’t need permission to begin your healing journey. You don’t need to explain your story to be worthy of peace. This work is for you — because your life matters.

If no one else has said this to you, let me say it now:

I see you. I believe you. I honor your story.
Healing after abortion is possible — and it begins with truth, compassion, and sisterhood. When you’re ready, I’ll be here.

With love,

Jennifer